Foster Care Book: Chapter 12
Chapter 12 - Settling In
The settling in phase occurs after the children have finally determined the boundaries of behavior and have, for the most part, accepted the inevitable. They, then, must determine if the boundaries are at all flexible. During the testing phase, things seemed to be rather rigid but maybe there is some leeway after all. The settling in phase is what I call the re-test phase. I pretty much know what’s expected and what is not but I keep coming up with different things I want to try. Since I haven’t tried this one during the testing phase, I better get it out of the way, now. Once the re-testing is fairly well complete and we all feel fairly compatible with each other, this phase ends.
These phases almost always run into each other and they are not as specific and clear cut as I have defined them. It also is important to remember that the children are not aware of what is going on and therefore cannot distinguish the different phases. This should give you, as a foster parent, an advantage.
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